(Uplift | Chris) In today’s world, forgiveness is often an unspoken topic. With people placing less and less value on relationships, the traditional sense of pride in camaraderie is seemingly fading into nothingness.
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For instance, when one commits a wrong to another person, such instance is not always cured with an apology. Instead, individuals will simply let time heal itself instead of tending to the wound.
As such, this newfound culture shall be analyzed in this article as we outline some contents about why this is happening and what possible solutions could be made to address it. By doing an in-depth look at the forgiveness archetypes, it will be easier for us to know how to deal with such trials.
Why is forgiveness a trivial issue?
When marrying someone, part of it that we usually fail to recognize is that we’re also marrying into that person’s family. As such, inevitable conflicts between in-laws may arise, especially when these people do not hold the same values in life. Thus, we see the classic quarrel between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law.
But unlike before, where people were forced to live in the same house (at least in the Asian setting), individuals nowadays will choose to live separate from one another. As such, when these conflicts arise, no-one has to necessarily conform or plead for forgiveness since there is no dependency of abode.
Even when those in conflict are living under the same roof, the advent of social media and technological advancements potentially prevents us from having a genuine course of the conversation, which can lead to authentic ways to forgive the other. Instead, people dismiss themselves in this scheme where they speak with other people that they’re in good terms with.
What does this tell us? Simple – that the context we’re living in greatly affects the kind of forgiveness that we employ.
Because of this fast-paced, commercialist setting, where instant gratifications are the norm, social gaps are present between individuals. Just as if you don’t want your current partner now, you can simply swipe on Tinder (or even Grindr) to look for a new one. If love and relationships can be replaced this easily, how much more are those fragile relationships that tend not to forgive?
With that, studying the forgiveness archetypes gives you a refreshed perspective on the topic of forgiveness. By going deeply into what these archetypes are, you’ll have a better lens to use in knowing what to do with what or whom. As such, here are three forgiveness archetypes that we commonly know of.
Forgiveness Archetype #1: Recognition
As the first form of forgiveness, it all begins with recognition. Being a universal phenomenon among people who seek to become better, recognition is often a way to see what’s not apparent.
When we recognize something, we begin seeing it from a different angle. For instance, when a lady changes her style and appearance, it is often the recognition part that makes it count. Instead of being contained in its own self, the fact that she, and other people, recognize such changes will make it real.
Similarly, the same principle applies to forgiveness. It is only by recognizing one’s mistakes or the forgiveness of others that we are able to make it real. Thus, before anything else, one must be able to see through the muck of things and realize them for what they are.
Forgiveness Archetype #2: Self-acceptance
After recognition, self-acceptance comes next. Whether we are wronged or wronged the other, self-acceptance is key in being able to truly understand the value of forgiveness. As they say, forgiveness starts from within, and not from the outside.
More often than not, what usually happens is that we fail to accept for ourselves the truth of the matter. For instance, even when we recognize that it is our mistake, our pride can get in the way of forgiveness. As such, it is only by stripping away such pride that we are able to truly connect and realize things.
Thus, by ensuring that you are engaged in this archetype of forgiveness, you’ll learn the lesson and its value in your life. By accepting that people can and will exhibit shortcomings, it becomes a lot easier for you to accept your current circumstance.
Forgiveness Archetype #3: Transcendence
Last but not least, transcendence is the final archetype that needs to be implored in a genuine act of forgiveness. As we seek the recognition and approval of others, we do this by transcending ourselves. Why so?
If we look at the assumption of man’s nature, it often points to the idea that man is a self-interested creature. Meaning, when a man does something, his/her personal interests are usually taken into the picture. Because of this, it becomes quite challenging for one to truly forgive.
However, if one is able to transcend this assumption, one can wholeheartedly forgive another person. Regardless of their mistake, or even your mistake, it is the value of transcendence that allows us to go beyond ourselves and do something that can appease our current situation.
With these three forgiveness archetypes, we will be able to clear the conditions for genuine forgiveness. Regardless of the complex context that we’re in, employing the help of these archetypes will allow us to achieve that act of true forgiveness.
Instead of simply handing out a simple ‘sorry’ that we’ve never meant, forgiveness teaches us to learn from our own mistakes. After all, when we forgive, we forgive ourselves in the process, since we accept our lack of perspective and understanding as well.
By following these simple tips, forgiving others becomes a realizable task!
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