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The 5 psychological reasons why women pull away from men

(Higher Perspective) Women have a great natural intuitive ability. They’re able to pick up on subtle cues like change of tone or body language that are indicative of deeper issues.

Why women pull away

When they start to pull away from a man, it’s usually for a reason. They pull away in order to protect themselves and put a little distance between them and heartbreak while they assess the situation further. There is a chance of those reasons being fixed if they are become addressed early enough.

Here are the five most common psychological reasons why women pull away.

When a man expects her to mother him

A woman may try to help at first with basic responsibilities but she will quickly grow tired of feeling like she has to help a man function as a basic human. A woman’s role in a relationship isn’t to babysit by taking care of her man’s laundry and making sure he’s fed while he spends his entire evening drinking beer by the television.

Women today need an equal partner. They work just as hard outside of the home and expect the same inside their home. When a man reverts back to child-like behavior and needs, women are likely to want to go look elsewhere.

When a man expects her to do all the emotional labor

It’s not a woman’s job to take care of a man emotionally. Sometimes men don’t allow themselves to be vulnerable with anyone except their partner, but that’s a lot of pressure. They should bear the responsibility of dealing with their own emotions and only using their partner for support.

They shouldn’t expect a woman to fix their problems for them or use their emotions as a means of justifying their betrayals or other toxic behavior. When a woman starts to pick up that the man she’s dealing with lacks emotional intelligence, she’s likely to pull away.

When a man takes more than he gives

Some men keep pushing the boundaries to see how much they can take advantage of a woman’s natural caretaking instincts. They’ll keep on making more and more demands but start giving less and less in return.

Suddenly the same man who wooed a woman with the way he made her feel respected and taken care of is replaced with someone who withholds affection, barely makes time to prioritize her yet wonders why she feels neglected. When a woman notices that the power dynamic is becoming unbalanced, she will pull away to restore balance.

When a man gets too comfortable

Men are really good at trying hard in the beginning but stop putting in effort as soon as they realized that the woman has fallen for them. It’s like they forget that just as she was able to fall in love with them, she can also fall out of love with them. Love is like a muscle, it needs to be exercised.

Biologically, there needs to be a release of dopamine, endorphins, and oxytocin, the pleasure and cuddle hormones. Without them, boredom takes over and the love fades, and with it so does the woman’s desire to stay in the relationship.

When she senses his commitment issues

Nothing is more of a turn-off for a woman than a man who’s too scared to commit. Women who know their worth don’t have the time or energy to convince a man of why he should get over his fear and take a risk. Love is a risk for all parties involved and if she can be vulnerable enough to put her heart on the line then she sees no reason why the man can’t.

She knows that someone’s bound to see her as worth the risk. Instead, men with commitment issues often come off as players and ungenuine. They give women no reason to stay.

There is hope when it comes to love

In any relationship, always look at how you feel and ask yourself: does this person make you love yourself more? Do you want to grow old with them?

Source: Higher Perspective


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