How to understand a human being

(Sustainable Human) Human behaviors can be really difficult to understand unless you understand the unmet need that is behind the behavior.

“We believe that all human behavior is a (conscious or subconscious) attempt to meet a need or a reaction to a need not being met. And that if you want to understand and change human behavior, you have to first understand our common needs.” – Chris and Dawn Agnos

How to understand a human being

I am a human being.
I have needs.
I have a need for healthy food.
I have a need for clean water.
I have a need for shelter.
I have a need to feel safe and secure.
I have a need to feel included.
I have a need to feel useful and needed.
I have a need to love and feel loved.
I have a need to be validated and heard.
I have a need to be acknowledged for my gifts.
I have a need to feel like I belong.
When my needs are not met, I am more likely
to be fearful,
to be selfish,
to be reactionary,
to take more than I need,
to be irrational,
to be angry,
to be violent,
to hoard,
to be individually focused,
to engage in risky behaviors,
to commit crimes
I will be unable to empathize and care for the needs of others.
However, if my needs are met, I am more likely
to be generous,
to be grateful,
to be inspired,
to be insightful,
to feel alive,
to be helpful,
to be community-minded,
to have self-love and respect,
to want to give,
to be grateful to receive,
to have wisdom.
I will be able to empathize and care for the nees of others.
I am a human being
and this is how I can be understood.

Source: Sustainable Human


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